Phil Staff on 100 AM PST February 06 2004. If you dont have healthy boundaries if you dont rest if you dont take care of yourself people pick-up on this and they will take advantage of you.

We Teach People How To Treat Us Idlehearts

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We teach people how they will treat us. Anything less would not be. Were constantly teaching the people around us how to treat us through our response to what they do. The two of us had to teach each other how we needed to be treated.

Let me say it again. If we put ourselves down and make self-deprecating comments it tells people we dont value ourselves and it tells them it is OK for them to do the same. Unless you want the treatment to continue.

And they will treat us accordingly. Lets take a look. People will follow our lead in deciding how they will treat us.

Communicate your needs clearly and compassionately. So we tell them to make it clear that they will not be treated this way. And so we learned early on to treat them with love and respect.

If we show them that a certain word or look will get a consistent reaction from us were training them to use that word or look whenever they want that reaction. We seem to be very quick to realise that you teach people how to treat you when it is others being mistreated. This could be a parent friend teacher mentor counselor or anyone you know well.

Many people dont realize that we do in fact have this power and that when we work on our self esteem and realize the ways we do in fact teach people how to treat us. We teach people how they can and cant treat us based on what we allow them to do. How do we effectively teach someone how to treat us.

How We Teach Graciously And Effectively. You have the ability to walk away when someone is speaking to you cruelly. If we believe we are not good enough they will too.

If we believe we are unimportant they will too. Finally I asked myself How am I eliciting Robins behavior or allowing it to continue The answer was that I elicited the pouting when I acted like a jerk and I allowed it to continue when I avoided really talking to her. If we expect communication and we continuously accept people in our lives who do not communicate we are teaching them that this is okay.

The fact is that we teach others how to treat us. What we expect and what we accept. Teaching people to treat you better doesnt mean youre demanding they cater to your every whim and never disagree with you.

We get to choose what we will tolerate what we wont tolerate and what behaviour we reward and reinforce. What you will and wont allow. Own rather than complain about how people treat you.

Your actions and beliefs about yourself speak so much to the world around you about how they can or cannot treat you. We teach others how to treat us through our communication our body language and the way we behave. We set the guidelines rules and show by way of action what is acceptable and unacceptable to do to us.

We teach people how to treat us by virtue of what we expect and what we accept. Grace de Rond Contributor. Grace de Rond is an author on relationships and.

Whether it was being grounded having something we valued taken away or shamed with a good verbal lashing they taught us how to treat them. Choose a role model to emulate. It is true we teach people how to treat us.

Model the behavior you want to see in others. How we act in a certain situation is also important but so often many people dont realize that and let people treat them badly for no reason at all. We set the tone for our relationships.

You teach people how to treat you with how you treat you. All healthy relationships need a balance of give and take. We teach people how to treat u.

We teach people how to treat us. For instance many couples criticize yell. But how do we actually do this.

Learn to renegotiate your relationships to have what you want. People accept our beliefs about ourselves. We learned through both my parents to treat them with respect.

Weve seen why its best not to treat people the way they treat you. If a person lacks confidence in their abilities other people will too. So weve seen why the suggested teaching method works.

But when we are in the firing line we forget the fact that we are teaching people how to treat us. We teach people how to treat usWilling Ways Pakistan is the state of art facility for counseling and rehab over four decades. 9 Ways You Teach People How To Treat You 1.

What It Means to Teach People How to Treat You Talk about your rules of engagement. And when we didnt there were consequences. Pretty much any time someone is rude to me or takes advantage of me or doesnt respect my boundaries I will receive some variation on that advice.

People are trained by other people. You either teach people to treat you with dignity and respect or you dont. Willing Ways took the responsi.

One of the biggest misconceptions Wisehearts clients have about relationships. Im talking about when someone isnt giving you the respect and courtesy you deserve.